by Hans Bool
There was this series on the television called thirtysomething picturing the roundabout of men (Michael, Elliot and Gary) and women (Hope, Ellyn and Melissa) in their thirties dealing with the dilemmas that are very common amongst people of begin or mid thirty.
But do not under estimate the power of turning 40!
“Forty” -– or anything close to either side: thirty-eight or forty-two, etc -- is an age that calls attention and especially for men. Change is often in the air when men “hang” around their forties. Why would that be?
First: evaluate.
When you are thirty you do not start to look back yet. You’ve got some work experience, studied perhaps but your biography is not large enough to evaluate thoroughly. Changes in your body are also minor, perhaps your stamina is a bit lower than it used to be but more probable because of a change of rhythm due to modifications in professional and social life.
There is certainly no way that you look back on your life when you are twenty. There is a whole life upfront and very little to worry. Even if you have missed some opportunity and made a mistake in selecting the right career there is still hope. And following the same line, there is even less to worry when you are turning ten.
But at forty there is the first reason to look back and to make a first serious evaluation. This evaluation is serious because you have just realized that there are those minor changes that are affecting your body. Perhaps that this insight triggers unrest; you become more and more aware that the sky is no longer the limit.
Then: what is you next step?
The next step depends much on the result of the evaluation. If you are satisfied with you biography so far you may conclude that the next steps will cause no real problem. You just continue the path you are at. But what if you have some doubts? It is possible that you have accepted less than optimal choices in the years before. And all of a sudden you ‘finally’ understand that you are not doing the right things.
Forty (something) is then the age where you still have possibilities to make significant modifications in life. You realize that the moment to act is now; you cannot wait any longer for many obvious reasons. In fact this could be anything. If you take time to evaluate you will know what fits well and what does not longer suits you. Perhaps you already know this for a while but there was no urgency to act...
Many changes in life resemble this “forty” scenario: it takes time to realize what is going wrong, but without the urgency (trigger) you won’t act (change).
There was this series on the television called thirtysomething picturing the roundabout of men (Michael, Elliot and Gary) and women (Hope, Ellyn and Melissa) in their thirties dealing with the dilemmas that are very common amongst people of begin or mid thirty.
But do not under estimate the power of turning 40!
“Forty” -– or anything close to either side: thirty-eight or forty-two, etc -- is an age that calls attention and especially for men. Change is often in the air when men “hang” around their forties. Why would that be?
First: evaluate.
When you are thirty you do not start to look back yet. You’ve got some work experience, studied perhaps but your biography is not large enough to evaluate thoroughly. Changes in your body are also minor, perhaps your stamina is a bit lower than it used to be but more probable because of a change of rhythm due to modifications in professional and social life.
There is certainly no way that you look back on your life when you are twenty. There is a whole life upfront and very little to worry. Even if you have missed some opportunity and made a mistake in selecting the right career there is still hope. And following the same line, there is even less to worry when you are turning ten.
But at forty there is the first reason to look back and to make a first serious evaluation. This evaluation is serious because you have just realized that there are those minor changes that are affecting your body. Perhaps that this insight triggers unrest; you become more and more aware that the sky is no longer the limit.
Then: what is you next step?
The next step depends much on the result of the evaluation. If you are satisfied with you biography so far you may conclude that the next steps will cause no real problem. You just continue the path you are at. But what if you have some doubts? It is possible that you have accepted less than optimal choices in the years before. And all of a sudden you ‘finally’ understand that you are not doing the right things.
Forty (something) is then the age where you still have possibilities to make significant modifications in life. You realize that the moment to act is now; you cannot wait any longer for many obvious reasons. In fact this could be anything. If you take time to evaluate you will know what fits well and what does not longer suits you. Perhaps you already know this for a while but there was no urgency to act...
Many changes in life resemble this “forty” scenario: it takes time to realize what is going wrong, but without the urgency (trigger) you won’t act (change).
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