by Trish Lay
Birth mothers and adoptive parents often do not like to hear what I have to say. I suppose hear what could happen to your child is frightening. I do not blame them. If I have seen some future experiences of mine, I would be scared too.
My first attempt at suicide was when I was 14 years. The other attempts came to my 20, when finally achieve the strength and courage to make life and death on the table. If the death was going to be elected; commit and end things. If life is elected; commit and never go to the option of death again. Life was elected and at night face my demons physically eye to eye and told them that no longer serves a purpose in my life and never allow me screaming me-me to take.
See, as an adopted internal pain is so deep and painful it is not surprising statistics are high for suicide and substance abuse among adopted.
With the system constantly protecting the biological mother, once more that are rejected to know our origin. Not to mention the media portrays us as self-absorbed people who are trying to create chaos in our parents, when everything that finding a relationship or understanding from where it began.
Why do you want society to keep constantly in the dark? Why win the secrets and lies along the integrity, forgiveness, understanding and compassion? Life is not fairy tail, nor does it have a happy ending, we all have to die someday and pending birth and death, in which we live. Why is like an adopted since they were introduced into this world, our lives and the way we live - is decided by us? "You have no right to file his birth," which translated means "you do not have a right to know who you are." "You can not find her mother, she is protected by law." Why everyone has a beginning and an end and only have a sorta thing, but it really does not begin with an ending that does not know very well because we are not so much to our medical information that could contain important to details about our genetics, but because our right to know where we come from is illegal - to continue living in the mysterious cloud of uncertainty.
And when / if you do locate her mother, she often found to keep you from knowing the truth. Is it not surprising that the pain of rejection, abandonment, lies and secrets prevail in the deep dark abyss of our being. How can it be ignored?
This hard to see the reality is called education. I get tired of hearing about adopted I knew taking his life because they can not cope or do not know how to treat or not supported in how to deal with.
Why forgiveness can not be replaced by anger and fear? With access routes to cure, such as books, workshops, web pages and therapist specializing in adoption, there is no excuse for the lack of self-education any longer.
It's time to grow up, stop playing the victim in our situation and take the wonders of life. I had a crazy-solving life, however, I was tired of being unhappy constantly by my own volition. Step; make a difference in your own life. Find forgiveness from you and others. Take responsibility for your own actions - finding love for yourself first. Be happy and grateful for the experiences that have led to this moment. Embrace being taken and find ways to help others through their life experiences. As selfish as it sounds, to help you with your problems. Absorb and educate you about the adoption issues flying around your mind and soul to help stop the past and move forward. Nobody is alone in this process. All have felt and trafficking in similar situations.
Making the conscious choice to be free and build his own foundation, with or without the help of "knowing". It is entirely up to you, your choice.
As disconnected as we may feel, we are one. We are survivors who promote change. Help Yourself, helping others. Being a leader in his life, not a follower.
"A good leader inspires people to have confidence in their leader. A great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves." ~ Anonymous
Rock on!
Trish Lay is a Certificate of Life / leadership training - motivate people to trigger a positive change in his life for over 20 years. For more information go to: http://www.SoulsAtPlayProductions.com or contact her directly at: TrishLay@gmail.com.
Birth mothers and adoptive parents often do not like to hear what I have to say. I suppose hear what could happen to your child is frightening. I do not blame them. If I have seen some future experiences of mine, I would be scared too.
My first attempt at suicide was when I was 14 years. The other attempts came to my 20, when finally achieve the strength and courage to make life and death on the table. If the death was going to be elected; commit and end things. If life is elected; commit and never go to the option of death again. Life was elected and at night face my demons physically eye to eye and told them that no longer serves a purpose in my life and never allow me screaming me-me to take.
See, as an adopted internal pain is so deep and painful it is not surprising statistics are high for suicide and substance abuse among adopted.
With the system constantly protecting the biological mother, once more that are rejected to know our origin. Not to mention the media portrays us as self-absorbed people who are trying to create chaos in our parents, when everything that finding a relationship or understanding from where it began.
Why do you want society to keep constantly in the dark? Why win the secrets and lies along the integrity, forgiveness, understanding and compassion? Life is not fairy tail, nor does it have a happy ending, we all have to die someday and pending birth and death, in which we live. Why is like an adopted since they were introduced into this world, our lives and the way we live - is decided by us? "You have no right to file his birth," which translated means "you do not have a right to know who you are." "You can not find her mother, she is protected by law." Why everyone has a beginning and an end and only have a sorta thing, but it really does not begin with an ending that does not know very well because we are not so much to our medical information that could contain important to details about our genetics, but because our right to know where we come from is illegal - to continue living in the mysterious cloud of uncertainty.
And when / if you do locate her mother, she often found to keep you from knowing the truth. Is it not surprising that the pain of rejection, abandonment, lies and secrets prevail in the deep dark abyss of our being. How can it be ignored?
This hard to see the reality is called education. I get tired of hearing about adopted I knew taking his life because they can not cope or do not know how to treat or not supported in how to deal with.
Why forgiveness can not be replaced by anger and fear? With access routes to cure, such as books, workshops, web pages and therapist specializing in adoption, there is no excuse for the lack of self-education any longer.
It's time to grow up, stop playing the victim in our situation and take the wonders of life. I had a crazy-solving life, however, I was tired of being unhappy constantly by my own volition. Step; make a difference in your own life. Find forgiveness from you and others. Take responsibility for your own actions - finding love for yourself first. Be happy and grateful for the experiences that have led to this moment. Embrace being taken and find ways to help others through their life experiences. As selfish as it sounds, to help you with your problems. Absorb and educate you about the adoption issues flying around your mind and soul to help stop the past and move forward. Nobody is alone in this process. All have felt and trafficking in similar situations.
Making the conscious choice to be free and build his own foundation, with or without the help of "knowing". It is entirely up to you, your choice.
As disconnected as we may feel, we are one. We are survivors who promote change. Help Yourself, helping others. Being a leader in his life, not a follower.
"A good leader inspires people to have confidence in their leader. A great leader inspires people to have confidence in themselves." ~ Anonymous
Rock on!
Trish Lay is a Certificate of Life / leadership training - motivate people to trigger a positive change in his life for over 20 years. For more information go to: http://www.SoulsAtPlayProductions.com or contact her directly at: TrishLay@gmail.com.
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